From the Office of the President
Throughout the year I’ve had several conversations with many of you inquiring what do I do when someone is criticizing me or putting down me or my efforts? This seems to be an appropriate topic as the holidays approach and stresses increase.
In my early days of my career (for those who are unaware I am a licensed mental health therapist of almost 30 years), I would address a graduated sort of approach of started with ignoring the negative behavior, assuming positive intent of the offender, asking for clarification, stating how their actions made you feel and question if it was their intent to be unkind and then onto setting various types of boundaries. I still agree that these are good approaches with people whose intent was not to harm you, unaware of your boundaries or triggers, are willing to respect you and your needs or people you would likely encounter on few occasions.
I have changed my advice and tactics as I have grown older and have run into repeat offenders who continuously demonstrate lack of regard for others well being, those who gaslight and manipulate, those who attempt to control others, those who are unwilling to accept boundaries or the ones who apologize but their harmful behavior continues.
Theodore Roosevelt gave a very impassioned speech which later became known as “The Man in the Arena” which puts these critical behaviors into perspective.
When the critics come rushing in to highlight all of your “fails” know that you are in the arena and that they are in the stadium filled with envy, judgment and insecurity. I no longer “people please" to sacrifice my well-being. I no longer make excuses for others behavior and make apologies on their behalf. I speak in truths with boundaries and fact. The boundaries have changed and those critics no longer receive an invite to the stadium to cast judgment. If I have to tolerate the critics for the sake of a family event or what have you, they receive my stoic distance. I will practice Covid social distancingmeasures with those who have not earned the right to hear my sorrows, my joys and my dreams.
Happy Thanksgiving and wishing you beautiful blessings because you deserve to be treated with kindness and love,
2025 Seminars and Paint-ins
If you have suggestions for projects for 2025, please let the Board know.
Christmas Raffles
Santa Spindle
The Santa Spindle class that was canceled because of injuries that Betty received will be rescheduled when she able to teach again. That will probably be sometime after the first of the new year. We know you are all dissapointed and so was Betty. We will let everyone know as soon as we have a date.
November
Teacher: Pat Reeder
Palette: Americana Colors
Light Hauser Green
Dark Hauser Green
Ocean Blue or medium blue (Thread Color)
Diox Purple (Thread Color)
Boysenberry Pink (Thread Color)
Spiced Pumpkin or medium orange
Empire Gold (Delta) or Antique Gold
Deep Burgundy
Prep:
The Paint-in will be held at the Westwood Village Clubhouse (1111 N. 2000 W., Farr West, UT).Take I-15 #346 and go north on 2000 W/UT-126 0.6 of mile. The Clubhouse is on the west side of the street with parking on the west side of the building.
Date: December 14th (Saturday) 1:00 pm
Cost: GSDP will give everyone who attends $10 in cash toward their meal, you will be responsible for the balance.
The Party will be held at the December 14th (Saturday) Hug Hes Cafe (2432 W 1700 S B6, Syracuse, UT).
Meal Choices:
Painting Note:
Chroma has Discontinued the following 6 oz. Jo Sonja Background Colors
Color Color Mix
3457 - Deep Plum India Red Oxide/Pthalo Blue/Napthol Crimson 10/1/1
